5 Types of Men That I Dislike

I have opened a new Facebook account after few months. Initially I wanted to close it because I was going crazy due to addiction and I wanted to stop wasting my time glued on my phone screen. I had a lot of free time and started to do other activities that I feel are more beneficial. But now the situation is different. I want to keep my mind occupied on something and don’t want it to wander to the past and become needy again.

I wanted to keep my Facebook account public as I wanted to share my writing there and also to let people know the existence of my blog. Within minutes of opening my account, a flood of friend requests started appearing in my notification. Without thinking much, I just accepted most of them. And you know something? Most of them are guys and they started sending private messages to me.

“Hi, how are you?”

“Thank you for accepting my request. I’m XXX. What are you doing?”

“XXX is waving at you.”

“XXX sent a photo.”

“You missed a video chat from XXX.”

*Rolling eyes*

I am definitely not interested to reply any of them because they are just too many and I do not know them. They could be using fake accounts, scammers looking for money or just another guy looking for sex. Maybe genuine guy looking for friendship or love. I don’t know. I started to think about all the different types of guys I have met in my life and decided to write the type that I don’t like. Here are 5 types of guys that I dislike:

1. Married but looking for mistress

Those days men might cheat by saying that they are still single and unmarried. But current reality is that they openly admit that they are married and still flirt with you. They show you the pictures of their family, their wife and kids. But tell you they are lonely and ask you out. Even when you try to keep the conversations friendly and within limit but somehow they try to spice things up. I remember asking one of such guy who approached me in this manner. “What will you do if your wife does the same thing like you do? She flirts and sleeps with other man. Will you accept her?” I’m not surprised to receive his reply “That’s how world is. Women will be women and men will be men!” “Owhh, is it?”

And why would I accept such a man? I don’t get anything from such a man. He will not have time for me. He has to meet me without anybody’s knowledge. I cannot publicly announce yes, this is my guy. I might ended up carrying his child and will have all kinds of problems later on because my child will not have his name on the birth certificate. And why would I destroy another woman’s life? If I’m married, I definitely will not want any women to steal my husband, then why would I do that to another woman? It is definitely not me. I totally dislike a man who is not loyal to his wife and family.

2. A man who boasts that he has so much of money

If a man really has money, I don’t think he wants to boast about it because he wants to keep it for himself. If he keeps telling you that he has this much in his account, he earns this much, he has spent so much for this and that, that will be a huge RED flag for me. Maybe he wants to impress me with his money. Maybe he just wants to bring me to the bedroom. Maybe he is a playboy. Why do you need to tell me that you have so much money? Why do you need to tell me that you have a house here? That you went there for a vacation? Then they tell you that they are only telling you. Nobody knows that they have all these. If you tell this to a gold digger, she/he would start to see stars in the eyes. For me, I dislike a guy who boasts.

3. A man who swears

I really dislike a man who uses foul language to speak. The ‘F’ word, ‘B’ word, etc. It is not something nice that one can listen to, right?

4. A man who is needy and desperate

Sometimes I come across man who likes me but I’m not too much into them. Then they try too hard to impress me. Too much message, too much talking and too much courting. They are moving too fast that I’m unable to cope up with them. To the extent, I have to run away from them and avoid them totally. Sorry guys, I’m just not into you. Love and relationship doesn’t work out if it is just one sided.

5. A man who looks for sexual pleasure only

All men are looking for sex. Whether they are gay or straight, they are looking for sex. Except those who decided to live a celibacy life like monk. Why sex is important? Because humans need to reproduce. This is science. Without sex, one cannot continue his lineage. But what is happening in today’s world? Sex without marriage, unwanted pregnancy, living together, etc is the modern culture. Current generation do not want to carry the responsibility of having a household by doing things in a proper way. So men and women are in a hunt to look for a prey(s). How can I get sexual pleasure without having to invest much?

Just need some money to bring the girl to a fancy restaurant, and look for a private place. If you want to pay, look for hotel/motel nearby or maybe far. You want for free? Just bring to the house or just finish it in the car. Maybe you have to do this just enough time to get her to sleep with you, isn’t it? That’s it. Easy way out. No need to meet the parents, no need to spend for marriage, no need to announce legally that you are taken, no need to carry the responsibility of bringing up a child in case she got pregnant. Done with this one. Ok next! Hunt for the next prey. These type of men (or women) do not care what damage they are causing the person they are leaving. They don’t care if someone were to do the same thing to their siblings or their own kids in the future. They think nothing will happen to their loved one. All they think is that 5 minutes of pleasure. This type of men is the worst type of all. A sex predator.

I came across all these type of men in my life and all I can do for them is just pray. I can’t change them. I can only take precaution to safeguard myself and the people closest to me. I really don’t know with what intention people come to me. But after a while, their true intention is revealed through their actions and words. Let’s pray that we will all be protected from all kinds of evil around us. 🙂

The mind

Our mind is like a little kid

Wanting to explore

Curious to know

Tempted to try

Stubborn when refused

 

In order to control our little kid

We must give toy to play

We must give the attention it seeks

We must give some task to do

Otherwise it starts to scream

 

Take care of our little mind

Like our own baby

Feed it with love and care

Teach it with knowledge and wisdom

So it grow up healthy and happy

 

Written by : Puspha Jeyapergasam

28.05.2019

The Pantry

This is a short story. I wrote this long time ago but never posted. I wanted to write chapter by chapter. I have never written a story. Do read and let me know your thoughts. I will continue to write this story from time to time. 🙂

Day One

Sharp at 9am, Ivanka already being seated near the registration counter waiting to be called. Feeling quite excited and nervous at the same time, the feet seems to be tirelessly tapping on the floor. Wearing light make up with a bright red lipstick, matching with a red blouse and a skirt with side cut. Ivanka has dark smooth wavy hair, curly eyelashes, cute dimples on both cheeks, has an average height, amazing curve. Number of heads turned to look at her, wondering with the unfamiliar face. She tried to smile awkwardly.

‘Ivanka’

‘Please come inside. Mr Jay is waiting for you!’ ordered a lady in black attire.

A gloomy feeling overshadowed Ivanka for a moment. ‘Why so serious? Someone died today?’ She taught to herself.

Entering the room, Mr Jay is sitting talking with someone on the phone.

‘Ok, just get it done today. Submit the report to me by 5pm. Ok…..Ok…Sure, talk to you later, bye.’

Ivanka gazed to look around the room. The room is looking neat and organized.

Smiling, Mr Jay extended his hand for a handshake.

‘Good morning, Ivanka.’

‘Good morning, Sir.’

Mr Jay is a good looking man in his late 30’s. Black curly hair, 6″5′, with tummy he always try to hide. Married with two kids.

‘Today, Giselle will help you to show you around the office. She will delegate the task to you,’ said Mr Jay pointing to the lady in black. ‘I’m screwed!’ Ivanka cleared her throat and smile fakely to Giselle.

‘You can pass your photocopied documents to Giselle. Today will be a relaxed day for you since it is day one. Just chill and learn as much as you can. Any problem you can always refer to me. Okay?’ Ivanka nodded with her sweet smile.

‘Welcome to Gogorda Incorporation!’

*****

The office is busy with everyone talking on the phone, trying to close the deal and get an appointment. At some corner, phones are ringing.

‘I can’t believe she just hang on me! Rude customer!’ Jacky blurted angry while putting down the phone.

Kesha smiling to herself while looking secretly at Jacky cursing the customer.

‘As usual Jacky. Just move on to the next. Not everybody is nice.’

*to be continued*

Written by : Puspha Jeyapergasam

Trust

I believed you will protect me

I believed you will love me

I believed you will care about me

I believed every word you say

And you just crushed my belief

 

I believed you will come

I believed you were really busy

I believed your story

I believed everything you say

And you just proved me wrong

 

I believed you are a good person

I believed you have good heart

I believed you are from good family

I believed you will be good husband

And you just destroyed my heart

 

I believed I was going insane

I believed I was at fault

I believed something is wrong with me

I believed I have to change

And my trust slowly gone

 

Written by : Puspha Jeyapergasam

26.05.2019

The type of person I would love to date

I know Law of Attraction is very powerful. I will get what I think. Well, I have put out some thoughts into the universe and I guess the universe has been responding to me in some manners. The universe has been showing me some type of men for me to select. From tall and handsome man; short and fair man; dark and ugly man; single men; married man to old men. Unfortunately, I am still unable to manifest my perfect true lover. I think the reason for this is I’m unable to focus my thoughts into one direction that is I want to be married and settle down and have a fantastic married life.

For some weird reasons, I have fear that I might be making huge mistake by marrying a wrong person. That I don’t know if this is the right person that I should be pursuing my relationship with or marry and spend the rest of the life with. I always have this confusion in my head. Should I be married or be single for life? I am terrified to live alone because there are bad men out there. I am also terrified to be married to bad man just like my ex whom I found out is a weirdo who thinks only about group sex.

Now how do I manifest the right person into my life? When I keep having this fear in my heart that I’m choosing the wrong one? I know writing is a powerful tool to manifest your desire. So I’m going to list down the character of my perfect partner and wish to manifest this person into my life.

1. Loving and caring towards family

The best person I can quote in this is none other than Barack Obama, the former President of United States. I just love how he treats his wife and children. The kind of affection he shows. Goshh…I would love to date and marry someone who have such character.

2. A true gentleman

I would love someone who knows how to be gentleman like helping to carry stuff for your wife or girlfriend. Someone who will hold the door open for me. Someone who knows to treat me like a queen. Who doesn’t love to be pampered, right?

3. Loyal and monogamous

I definitely prefer a guy who is loyal to me, who don’t flirt with other girls behind my back. Who wants me to be loyal to him alone. He should not even have a thought of sharing me with another person.

4. Wealthy

I wish to be dating a man who knows how to earn for the family in a good way of course. Who is able to provide for the family. I don’t want to be worrying about a place to stay, to eat, etc.

5. Nature loving person

I wish I have someone with whom I can go and explore nature. Go on long vacation and discover places around the world.

6. Honest

Honesty is very important to me. Never ever lie to me.

7. Able to spend time with me

What is the point of being in relationship or marriage if your partner don’t have time for you? Who don’t bring you out? Who always working non-stop and find excuses? Goshh please keep these kind of men out of my radar. I believe life is about balance. What is the point of working too much but don’t enjoy yourself?

8. A spiritual person

I want someone who choose to be close to God. Who imbibes good virtues and avoid bad stuff. I know everyone have their own weakness but don’t let your weakness to overpower you. I want someone who chooses to fight against their own evil desires.

So these are character of a person that I wish to manifest into my life. I am putting out this order into the catalogue of the universe and I definitely know the universe will bring this person to me. I will share a picture with my partner once my desire is manifested. If you are reading my blog, thank you for your time and please pray for me that I get a good person as my partner. 🙂

 

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