I couldn’t write everyday due to work commitment and other things which needed my immediate attention. Therefore I have to take a long jump from Day 2 to Day 42. I definitely feel better now. I have taken few steps to make myself feel better. So I’m going to share with you what I did in my journey to heal myself.
1. Make myself completely busy
I think situation was just helping me to pull this through because I had so much work piling up to the extent that I do not really have time to think about past. I made myself busy even during the weekends with new activity.
Do you know gardening is actually healing? I have started buying small flower pots and taking care of them. Watering them everyday and checking if they are okay. Seeing flowers bloom makes me feel happy. Currently I have 4 different plants at home and I also started to plant vegetables for cooking. Checking them everyday to see how much they have grown. Check why they wilt and turn yellow. My parents are also helping me to grow my little garden. 🙂
I bought a fountain to be placed in our home. When I saw this fountain in a shop during one of my work trip, I immediately felt a sense of calm and decided to buy it. It is a beautiful deity statue and symbolizes family. I remember reading how fountain can help to reduce stress. It is really helping me to reduce stress and I believe it is helping me to heal myself. But I found out something interesting. My parents are old now but they still quarrels a lot. After I placed the fountain in our home, I realized my parents have reduced quarrelling. My father seems to be less irritated with my mum and vice versa.
According to my mum, she feels that it is because she was away for few weeks staying with my sister and taking care of her baby. Maybe during this time, he realized how lonely it is without my mum and reduced arguing with her. But for me, I feel it is because of the fountain. I cannot say for sure though. If you would like to give it a try, please do so. But keeping fountain at home comes with certain rules and certain location to get maximum benefits. Putting it wrongly may result in negative outcome. Kindly do some research before doing this. 🙂
I do take some time away to sit down quietly and meditate with a soft music. I found some soft music with a length of less than 10 minutes in youtube and downloaded for offline. I try to sit for meditation for that duration, if I feel like I want to do that on repeat, I repeat the music. Spending time with self allows me to think what is good for me and not good and allows for my intuition to speak up.
5. Spending time with family
I spend more time sitting in the hall and have little conversation with my mum. Or watching Tamil drama together with my parents (I have no choice since both are hooked in the drama and I’m also getting influenced by them). Or talking with my sister and her baby via video call. Seeing funny things that our little man doing definitely uplift my spirit and put a smile on my face.
I wanted to take part in some volunteering work just to fill in my free time during weekends. The law of attraction has been working well for me because it delivers what I ask for. Sometimes a little late but it always delivers. So I got an opportunity to take part as a speaker/facilitator in one of the programme designed to help Indian students in our community. We have to teach them some moral values and virtues so that they grow up and become a better person which is clearly lacking in current technology era. It is not exactly volunteering because it comes with a pay. But I would do it even if I’m not paid for it because I have been looking to do something like this. This is a way I feel I can give back to the society through my knowledge and skills.
7. Considering ex to be dead
I know it is a bit weird but I’m doing this. I read a comment in one of a youtube video where someone shared that they are coping up with break up or bad relationship by considering that person to be dead. I thought this is interesting. I cannot be in contact with someone who is already dead, right? I can only have the memory but not this person anymore. So I decided to take only good memory and consider this person to be dead.
8. Celebrating for each week passed with no contact
I started to set an alarm on my phone for 1 week. I decided to celebrate my achievement each week that passed with no contact with my ex. This is to stop myself from accepting or going back to the person that I’m trying to forget. Overcoming attachment is tough. But you shouldn’t go back or accept someone who have proved themselves to you that they are not worthy of your love. Especially when you know for real that this is never going to work, then the wise thing to do is to stop it. My weakness with this is I tend to think maybe there is a little chance for this person to change and maybe I should give them another chance. That I shouldn’t give up hope on this person. This kind of thinking will make me to reach out to that person that I’m trying to forget. So I find that this is a brilliant way to stop reaching out, consider them to be DEAD and celebrate!
So far this is what I have been doing and I am feeling better and I have accepted the fact that it is over and gracefully moving on. I want to live happily and make today a memorable one. 🙂